We all like things done our way, and that’s ok. As long as we don’t use our will to forcefully make people do things for us exactly when and how we want them done.
I’m guilty of this.
I’ve always been independent, strong-willed, and vocal, and I come from a line of women who are the exact same way. So much so that I chuckled to myself as I visited my grandparents a few days ago and saw the legendary sign that has been in my grandmother’s kitchen for as long as I can remember. It reads, “I’m not bossy, I just know what you should be doing.”
This mentality is so ingrained in me that I might even debate that it’s hereditary. But unlike the lineage of “boss women” that runs in my family, I haven’t quite mastered the skill of knowing when to turn it on and off. And although this mentality has helped me to be successful in other aspects of my life, I’ve discovered that in marriage, it makes me more of a nag.
As I watched the latest episode of Black Love, I smiled from ear to ear. Not only because I was excited to tune in, but mainly because it was refreshing and reassuring to see other couples experience many of the same things that I do in my own marriage. I saw myself reflected so much as I watched Salli speak about feeling like a nag to her husband Dondre.