“And they lived happily ever after.”
These are the last words that most American children, especially little girls, hear before they go to bed. We are conditioned at a very young age that once we find our Prince Charming, we will be happy for the rest of our lives. Whether it was the fairy tales or the countless romantic comedies that I grew up watching, this was what I was taught as a child. My life is not complete until I meet my partner.
When I met my partner, I said to myself, “Yes, I have found someone who is kind, intelligent, supportive, loving, emotionally available, and wise.” We have been together for almost 10 years, have two children and one on the way. Being with someone for almost a decade, there are so many changes that occur. We individually changed, we changed as a couple, and now as a growing family.
When it was just him and me, we only had to work on our relationship. When my first child was born, my focus was my relationship with my son and partner. When my second child was born, my focus was my relationship with my partner, my first born, and my second born. Now that I am pregnant again, it just continues.
After having children, we became so busy balancing all the relationship dynamics and trying to keep these little humans alive and happy that we didn’t have the time to evaluate the changes that were happening within us.