How to Meet the Parents During the Holiday Season
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How to Meet the Parents During the Holiday Season

 

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So, you’re meeting your boo’s parents for the first time during the holidays. No pressure, right? Just the weight of making a great impression while surrounded by family members who’ve known your partner since they were wearing footie pajamas.

Luckily, we’ve got you covered with a guide that’s part advice, part survival kit—all rooted in Black love and good vibes. Keep reading to see how to effectively win over the fam during the holiday season.

 

DO: Come Correct with the Greeting

In many Black households, how you greet folks says a lot about your upbringing. Is it a firm handshake? A warm hug? A polite “Yes, ma’am” or “No, sir”? Pay attention to the vibe when you walk in. If auntie opens her arms wide, don’t leave her hanging! And if grandma says, “Call me Big Mama,” you better not follow up with a “Mrs. Johnson.” Respect the culture and respect the titles.

DON’T: Arrive Empty-Handed

Listen, you are now officially under the microscope, and nothing screams “I’m thoughtful” like showing up with a little something. It doesn’t have to be extravagant. A bottle of wine, a holiday dessert from a Black-owned bakery, or even a small bouquet for mom are all clutch moves. Bonus points if you bring something that reflects your personality or culture—like a favorite family recipe.

DO: Dress to Impress (But Be Yourself)

Black families love a good read—and if you show up looking disheveled, trust that someone will notice. The key is to strike a balance: dress sharp enough to show you care, but don’t overdo it to the point where you’re uncomfortable. And keep it authentic. If you’re not the three-piece-suit type, a nice sweater and well-fitted jeans can do the trick. Remember, confidence is the ultimate accessory.

DON’T: Be Glued to Your Phone

Social media can wait. You’re here to connect with your partner’s family, not to refresh your timeline. Keep your phone on silent and engage in the moment. Trust, it’s way more endearing to family when you’re laughing at their jokes instead of staring at your screen.

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DO: Be Ready to Talk… and Listen

Get ready for the grilling—and we’re not talking about food. Questions like “So, how’d y’all meet?” or “What do you do for work?” are bound to come up. Be yourself, answer honestly, and show some personality. Also, ask them questions about their traditions or stories from your partner’s childhood. Showing genuine interest will go a long way.

DON’T: Overdo the PDA

It’s cute that y’all are in love, but let’s keep it PG for the parents, shall we? Holding hands or a quick peck is fine, but no one needs to see a Netflix-and-chill preview. Remember, grandma is watching.

DO: Pitch In

You don’t have to take over the kitchen or be the life of the party, but offering to help—whether it’s setting the table, cleaning up, or passing out desserts—will score you major points. As the saying goes, many hands make light work, and your willingness to lend a hand won’t go unnoticed.

 

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DON’T: Start Debates (Unless You’re Ready)

Listen, holiday gatherings can get spicy, and Black families love a good debate. But if Uncle Mike starts talking politics, religion, or who’s the GOAT—Michael Jordan, LeBron, or Kobe—tread carefully. Only engage if you’re ready to defend your stance and keep it respectful. Sometimes, it’s best to let the “interesting” conversations pass you by.

DO: Be Grateful

At the end of the day, you’re a guest in their home. Express gratitude for the invitation and hospitality. A heartfelt “Thank you for having me” can leave a lasting impression. Bonus points if you follow up with a thank-you text or card the next day.

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