I Slid in His DMs, and Now We’re Happily Married
by Jasmine Raheem
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I Slid in His DMs, and Now We’re Happily Married

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“Black Love” Season 6 couple Jeannette and Robert

In the final season of “Black Love,” several couples are sitting down and candidly shared their stories. In Part 1 of the episode, “There Isn’t One Way,” these couples walked us through the moments that they met and the moments leading up to their marriage. They opened up about who was interested first and how their relationship progressed. Some couples shared how, initially, they were not interested in being in a relationship with their partner. Jeannette and Robert were coworkers, and although they went on dates and enjoyed each other’s company, Jeannette was not so receptive when Robert first expressed his feelings to her. Similar to Jeannette and Robert, JB and Shahidah told their story and shared how initially, Shahidah was not interested in a relationship. She had been celibate for years and completely ignored JB’s first attempts at flirting with her.  

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“Black Love” Season 6 couple Alimi & Dahn

Some of the couples had been friends first and didn’t plan or expect to be married to their partner. For instance, Kel and Asia opened up about how as friends, they would talk on the phone for hours and even discuss with one another their experiences with dating other people. It wasn’t until Kel broke the ice and expressed his romantic interest for Asia that they became more than friends. Alimi and Dahn were also friends first and didn’t initially intend on building a relationship with each other. Dahn had been dating someone else, but after a few months, Alimi gained an attraction to Dahn. It wasn’t until then that their friendship progressed into a relationship.

Like my husband and I, some couples jumped right into it and quickly navigated their way to marriage. The Creators of “Black Love” Codie and Tommy Oliver opened up about the first time they met. Codie revealed that she was the pursuer. They quickly fell in love, and after six months of dating, they were engaged. Ray and Roslyn also spoke about how after meeting and connecting at a party, they immediately started dating and have been with each other ever since. All of these stories remind me a lot of my husband and I.

Jasmine Raheem and her husband (Credit: @jazshebad/Instagram)

My husband and I had been friends since my teenage years. We had mutual friends and lived in the same area. But it wasn’t until my husband pursued me on MySpace that I knew he was interested in me on that level. Our friendship eventually became physical, but we remained cool throughout the years. I always wanted him to be more than just my sneaky link but I never expressed that to him. I knew he wasn’t capable of being in a serious relationship at that time, and honestly, neither was I. We would link up, lay and talk for hours, joke around, be intimate, and part ways. It was nothing more and nothing less. He would often vent to me about his situations and vice versa. 

Some years had passed, and we hadn’t spoken to each other. I had just gotten out of a relationship and happened to scroll past his picture on Instagram. I was immediately reminded of the attraction I had always had for him. Although he had been the pursuer in our previous years of hooking up, I felt like this was my turn. I sent the eyes emoji to his DM and he immediately responded, “you checking me out?” I honestly didn’t reach out because I was interested in a relationship. I just wanted company and really didn’t expect anything more than what I was used to from him. One day of reconnection quickly turned into every day of hanging out. We worked out together, we would cook for each other, and we would spend the night. I was so not used to experiencing this side of him. After just a few weeks, he told me he wanted to be in a relationship, and I was scared! This is something I did not expect from him, and honestly, I was afraid that we may not have been ready for such a leap. He made me feel so good and so protected, I felt like It was worth the risk. 

Jasmine Raheem and her husband (Credit: @jazshebad/Instagram)

Exactly like Codie and Tommy, we were engaged after six months and married 11 months after that. My husband proposed to me in June of 2018, and we got married in May of 2019. We had a blended family of 4 children and welcomed our 5th child and miracle baby in December of 2019. We have both elevated each other in ways neither of us could have ever imagined. We have accomplished so much in such a short time simply because he speaks to and reaches the Queen in me, and I speak to and activate the King in him. We have spent every moment with each other since our reconnection, and our best days are still yet to come. 

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