
This year’s election has also added stress and anxiety. People are worried about their futures and where the country is headed. Staying connected during this time isn’t easy, but it is possible. Experts say the first step in preserving intimacy is clear, honest dialogue. Sharing feelings of stress or sadness with your partner fosters understanding and prevents miscommunication. This is especially helpful when discussing boundaries around family gatherings or financial pressures. Creating space for meaningful conversation can alleviate tension and set the stage for deeper physical connection, according to Dr. Dawn Potter, a psychologist at the Cleveland Clinic.
“Having open, honest conversations about what you’re experiencing is key to avoiding misunderstandings,” Potter says. She also recommends carving out intentional time with your partner, even amidst busy schedules.
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Physical intimacy, even simple gestures like hugs or hand-holding, has profound psychological benefits. According to the American Psychological Association (APA), touch releases oxytocin, a hormone that decreases cortisol levels and alleviates stress. Engaging in physical affection can also lower blood pressure and improve mood.
If you find yourself unable to practice physical intimacy, experts recommend mindfulness techniques to rekindle desire. By focusing on the present, couples can enhance their physical experiences. A study from the National Institute of Health underscores that mindfulness is particularly effective in combating symptoms of SAD, which affects Black women more frequently due to intersecting health and social disparities.
Another critical element of maintaining intimacy is a stress-free environment. Transform your bedroom into a retreat by removing distractions—such as phones and work-related items—and prioritize relaxation. Simple rituals, like lighting candles or playing calming music, can enhance the mood and help you and your partner reconnect physically and emotionally.
Lastly, for couples struggling with the multiple pressures of holiday stress, SAD, and election anxiety, professional counseling can provide tailored strategies for maintaining intimacy. Organizations that address cultural nuances — such as Therapy for Black Girls or the Association of Black Psychologists — can offer insights that resonate with Black couples.
Maintaining physical intimacy during the holidays isn’t just about sex; it’s about creating shared experiences that enhance emotional connection. By embracing communication, touch, mindfulness, and mutual support, couples can weather the stresses of the holiday season and grow closer together.
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