Gratitude is the Attitude
by Arynetta Floyzelle



December 4, 2018


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Gratitude is the Attitude

Black Love Senior Editor Arynetta Floyzelle
Black Love Senior Editor Arynetta Floyzelle

As 2018 rolls to an end — almost as swiftly as it started, it seems — I sit in reflection of the year and all of the beauty it has bestowed on me. There are plenty of tangibles in my life to be grateful for: finally feeling at home in a new city populated with lovely friends, some I have known my entire life, some I’ve met since my arrival; an address, as for a very long time I was guest bedroom-hopping; the health of my family, loved ones, and self; my representation and all the work they do for me; living so close to an Erewhon; and, my position at Black Love and all of the joy and freedom it has brought me.

But the one thing that lives at the front of my mind and radiates in appreciation from my soul and throughout my entire being is the beauty of age, the wisdom it grants, and the treasures of self love. It’s been amazing to move back to a city in my thirties that I lived in in my twenties — after a seven-year absence. So much about the city feels absolutely like it is 2009. I will be driving by the Belmont and suddenly I am stuffing my face with the best mac and cheese (no more dairy) I’ve ever tasted, washing it down with margaritas (no more binge drinking), while figuring out how to get home (hello Uber!). Of course, there is much about the city that is new— like Topshop and Go Get Em Tiger (two of my current faves), the aforementioned Uber, and the even newer Lyft. Girlfriends who were single when I left are now married with children, and girlfriends who were halfway down the aisle are now single and all about that mingle. And, of course, there is all of that grocery and restaurant delivery!  

But with all of this change, the main transformation has been within me.

As a twenty-something girl, I had all of the energy and excitement in the world. A total optimist, I willed most of what I wanted into my life through sheer grit. I was all about the grind and proud of myself for it. I appreciated the hustle, in many ways thinking the flow was for dilettantes. And it was through that grit, grind, and hustle, based in positivity, that I made many of my dreams come true.

I can look back on the girl now with a lot of respect and appreciation, and she can look right back at me with a lot of anticipation and excitement for the peace she would one day feel in her life.  I am no longer a grinder, and if something is gritty, then I’m sorry, it will have to go back to the kitchen. Life experience, spiritual expansion, and self love have transformed me into a woman who trusts and allows more than grinds my way through.  I attract more than I chase. And I’ve officially and happily retired the hustle for the flow.

I’ve officially and happily retired the hustle for the flow.

This has deepened and expanded my life experience in ways I did not realize were possible 10 years ago. I live in a truth and a self-acceptance that allows faith to emanate from the core of my being, and this has granted me a serenity that has become the bedrock of my understanding.

From this solid foundation, I allow myself the beauty, excitement, and anticipation of my dreams, without the stress or hit on my self-esteem that once came from feeling that my dreams must be in full fruition in order to relax or feel a sustained pride in my experience.  

I am thankful for the natural attraction that occurs when one realizes that just as I am, I am enough.

So, in gratitude, I write this essay of appreciation of the beauty, peace, and divine perfection of life, wisdom, and self love. And I sit in glorious anticipation for all the ways these virtues will light my path in 2019.