This year, my husband James and I will celebrate nine years of marriage. When I reflect on our relationship and what was required for us to get to this point, I revert to a central theme revolving around vulnerability. We evolved significantly from when we first began dating in our early twenties until now. But building the emotional intimacy that had to take place laid the framework for who we would become as a couple, and eventually, a family unit.
Although we attended high school together, we didn’t run in the same circle. We reconnected shortly after I graduated from Howard University when I returned home to Detroit one weekend, and we both happened to be at the same party. He approached me, we exchanged information, but honestly, I wasn’t expecting it to go anywhere. I was leaving in a couple of days, and in a few weeks, he would be going to play basketball overseas.