“The goal of this panel is for it to be as real as possible.” This was the mandate set by panel moderator and BLACK LOVE series co-creator Tommy Oliver prior to introducing the tribe of husbands guiding us on this marriage journey from a man’s perspective: comedian Chris Spencer, and actors Lance Gross, Devale Ellis, and Robbie Jones. It was easy to spot the comradery amongst the men as their introduction resembled that of a starting five professional basketball squad.
The point guard on this panel was Devale Ellis whose quick responses and willingness to address all questions candidly, embodied realness. When asked, “What is it that will keep a man monogamous? ” He said: “A woman that’s willing to hear what his needs are and stand by that.
Too many times men and women struggle because they refuse to hear or accept what [the other] said their needs are, then [they] wonder why there’s a problem.”
Devale, who, along with his wife actress Khadeen Ellis, is featured in season two of the OWN’S BLACK LOVE, also controlled the tempo of the panel when asked, “What’s the hardest part about evolving in a marriage?”