Ciara’s episode of Red Table Talk was like a spring shower ushering in June blossoms. Sometimes, there are videos that come along right at that moment you need them – even if you don’t know that you did – and Ciara’s episode of Red Table Talk was that for me. Her gratitude, commitment to herself, and goal setting for the future was a masterclass in creating the life of one’s dreams, especially after going through some of life’s challenges.
Honestly, the last I followed Ciara was when she was dating Bow Wow (yes, really). I vaguely recall her getting married to Russel Wilson and completely missed her relationship with Fortune. I just assumed her life was going fabulously and would occasionally wonder what she was up to when I thought about “Goodies”. Yes, I have been living under a very substantial rock covered in graduate studies moss and baby poo. So, I looked at this episode of Red Table Talk as a nice catchup on what has been happening in her life with the ups, downs, and in-betweens of it all.
But honestly, the wisdom I received from Ciara far outweighed any salacious gossip that her former or current relationships might bring. Homegirl was dropping knowledge that had me hitting pause, so I could get myself a pen, right quick, and jot down my goals for my future.
At 14 years old, Ciara wrote in a notepad that her goals were to: 1. Be discovered, 2. Once discovered, sell 3-4 million albums, and 3. Have longevity in her career. She accomplished the first two goals by 18 years old and her appearance on Red Table Talk (as well as Twitter losing its mind over a tweet her husband posted of them at home) is proof of her longevity. Ciara is more relevant now than she ever was and is a newfound inspiration on finding your joy in life.
Now, I am a goal setter. Always have been and always will be, but I have fallen off of the clear and distinct pen-to-paper goal setting bandwagon recently. I took this Red Table Talk as a message the universe sent me to get back on that horse and ride it into the rainbow. So, I paused the video for five minutes and established three top goals that I really want to accomplish in the short and long term. I will keep those goals a secret, but just know that they were made on a scratch sheet of paper with a pen I dug out of my peeling yet very loved backpack. I might frame them.
But that is not all the inspiration I received from this Red Table Talk. In addition to specific goal setting, another diamond of a blessing that I truly connected with, that Ciara mentioned, was that you need to connect to a feeling. That is so true, because you may not know exactly what you want in life, or how you will get there, but you do know how you want to feel. Everyone on the panel agreed. They also agreed that part of knowing what you want to feel is knowing how you don’t want to feel. If you see something and your gut says, “Oh no, that is not for me,” then that is more than half the battle.