Only in love and war are you supposed to kiss and make up at the end of the night. And only in love and war do you love as hard as you fight.
For some, the Fireside Chat: Communications 101 panel at the 2019 Black Love Summit with moderator Jasmine Nicole and married couples Mattie and Chris James, as well as Quincy and Deondray Gossfield, was a refresher course on how to effectively communicate with your partner. And for others, it was all new information.
See, there are rules to love, and learning how to fight fair is probably the #1 rule in the book. For Quincy, who’s been with his partner Deondray for 23 years, this is still a work in progress, as he very transparently admitted, “I’m still learning how to fight fair.”
At that, we all felt a sigh of relief. If, after 23 years in a committed relationship, you’re still learning how to communicate and not hit under the belt with words that you know will make your partner feel small, then there’s hope for us all.