After a while of feeling lonely, countless dates, and constant prayers, I began to fill my time with other things that made me happy. I spent more time with family and friends, dedicated more time to my business, and worked out like crazy. It even came to a point where I no longer cared about dating. I closed myself off and omitted the possibility of “love” completely. I felt like love wasn’t for me and I didn’t bother to look for it anymore.
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One day, while I was at my nail salon, a message popped up on my phone. “Here’s another weirdo”, I thought to myself. A man had slid into my DMs. I read the message, but didn’t respond right away. I did, however, go search through his Instagram photos to get a visual. He was cute, dressed nice, and seemed very reserved in his posts. So I responded… what did I have to lose?
We chatted for a day or so before he asked me out on a date. He was straightforward and planned the actual date. This was new to me! I was accustomed to men beating around the bush and not being certain about what they really wanted.
I actually stood him up on our first date. My friend had a birthday party and I cancelled on him for her. Plus, it all seemed too good to be true! I wanted to do more background digging. We had mutual friends, so I called a few that I knew personally for intel. You know, you can’t be too careful nowadays, and I was NOT up for any mind games. After all of the positive reports from our mutual friends, I called him one day while he was out with his friends. He told me to come and meet him to hang out, and I’m glad I did.
I hung out with him and his friends until it was really late and I was ready to head home. Before I left, he made me promise him that we’d go on an official date — the following morning! I was in shock because I knew for sure he would want to talk more or wait at least a week or so. Well, we went out on our first date the next morning and he was genuine and a pure gentleman. He opened doors, pulled out chairs, and even ordered for me. We talked about everything under the sun, and he even planned out the entire day for us, literally! Our first date lasted a full 24 hours!