First comes love, then comes marriage. Then comes the baby in the baby carriage. And THEN, comes the “snapback”.
The “snapback” is the dreaded term used to reference the immediate pulling together of a fresh– just gave birth to a WHOLE human being– body. Some may say, if done correctly, one would barely know you were ever pregnant to begin with.
I, for one, never really understood how this term became such a negative notion. To me, “snapping back” post-baby was always a desire –– not so much for the outward aesthetics, but more because of the yearning to feel like my old self again.
But I get it. It’s no secret that in the age of social media and the unyielding eagerness to capture the perfect selfie, many compare their road back to “self” to their favorite Instagram model or A-list celebrity. Then, often the issue lies in posing unrealistic time frames to achieve this. Let’s be real –– I’m sure most celebs have an entire team who, upon dropping of said baby, have a roundtable discussion to map out mom’s strategic reintegration to society post-baby looking like there never was a baby to begin with. But for the everyday mom, like myself, I was sitting around a table attached to a breast pump, strategically planning out survival.
With each pregnancy, it’s natural to have concerns or anxiety about how the body changes. I was guilty of standing in front of the mirror, poking and prodding at my rapidly transforming body while simultaneously seeking approval or affirmation that I “still looked good” from my husband, Devale. Blessed hubby’s heart, he said all the right things while pregnant, but brutal honesty kicked in around six weeks postpartum when I was cleared to work out again.
You see, no one is really that vocal about the unchartered territory that is the “fourth trimester” of pregnancy. I’m referring to the three or so months after that sweet, bundle of joy makes his/her landing. I, for one, really think that pregnancy exists in quarters, because that “after baby” life is BRUTAL and requires just as much support, if not more, than the pregnancy itself.