Success is not one size fits all, and at an early age, as the lead singer of B2K, it seemed that singer, songwriter Omarion had everything from sold-out arenas, adoring fans, money, and fame. But while his career thrived, there was a missing link between his personal and professional success. The substantial effect of a father’s presence during a child’s formative years is crucial. Although growing-up, the absence of Omarion’s father had a dynamic impact on the Inglewood native, there is beauty in the unknown, and fortunately, everything came full circle.
“My Pops is lit! On this second path, we have such a great relationship, and I’m so appreciative of our bond. It’s interesting because he’s such an intentional man, and I now get to witness it in my older age, and I respect that.”
Along the journey of forgiveness, learning to let go of past hurts is crucial. And although difficult it is necessary. Transcending your heart to transform your pain is the key to personal growth, clarity, and healing. Changing perspectives and viewing life through a different scope helped the 35-year-old rekindle the necessary elements to deepen their father-son bond.
“Looking back, with a mature mindset and stepping into life, certain things put you on a particular trajectory. When you have kids, you start to observe your parents, and you see the tools they were given and were passed down. For the relationship with me and my dad, it was a bit of a process because I was (basically) a man early, working at 15-years-old and then I was out traveling the world. It took me some time to develop communication. I’m always busy, but now as I reflect, I’m super appreciative of my own experience and also to be able to understand my dad and what he went through. A lot of my experience was solely based on my perspective of him, but my dad wasn’t a bad person. He’s a really good person, and we have an amazing father-son relationship!”
Subsequently, Omarion’s repaired relationship with his father has translated into the unbreakable connection with his two children, Megaa and A’mei. A quick look on social media, and you’ll notice countless images of the threesome, creating timeless memories and cultivating nurturing attachments from meditative sessions to dance parties and playdates.
Throughout his 20 year career, the Grammy-award nominee has achieved massive success, received many accolades, and continues to do so. Still, his most significant accomplishment is being a dad and rocking the title proudly. There’s no denying, Omarion’s life from a 360-degree view, is exactly how it’s “Post to be.” We chatted with the dad-of-two about pouring the value of self-love into his children, legacy, parenting style, and much more.
BlackLove.com: What is your parenting style to match your children’s individual needs?
Omarion: I always try to instill the importance that they are a team and ensure they have the same quality of what it means to have a sibling as I have with my brother. We are each other’s teachers. No one understands me more as a young man than my brother. If you have a great relationship with your womb buddy, it’s almost like having another perspective that could be valuable if you nurture your siblings’ connection because it’s nothing like it. It’s a language in itself, and it’s communication without dialogue.
In what ways are you instilling in your children the value of self-love?
I’m really straightforward with the truth. I speak to my kids as I would speak to adults. I try to help them be more sound in their approach and understanding. I think it’s essential to have a positive role model, so I always try to be the best example for my kids in that way.
Growing up, did your parents have those transparent and authentic conversations with you?
I would say both yes and no. My mom had me at 16, so it was like a kid growing up with a kid. I had a lot of freedom. But, because of my Nana, auntie, and mom, I always received a different version. Life taught me how to be a man and to stay steadfast in the truth. It’s different when you’re a Black man on this planet. When I was growing up in those formative years, my dad wasn’t there for me in the way that I’m able to be there for my son. I always say I learned a lot of lessons. I paid for a lot of lessons and had to bump my head a few times, but I think I did alright.
They say you’re pretty much who you are from ages one to seven, and then you become the newer version of that as you grow. Since my dad was not around during that time, my aperture for truth was different than most because I’m the firstborn. But I also had to explore the truth further within my own experiences and what it meant to become a man not just in a woman’s eyes or in my mom’s eyes, but for myself.
You’re a very spiritually enlightened person. Was there a specific or defining moment to pivot your thought process, or have you always been this way?
I have always been thoughtful and considerate. This is a forever perpetual thing I believe happens with creative people. Because if you’re truly creative, you can be inspired by anything. In that sense, I would say I’ve always been spiritual and detail-oriented.
There was one particular thing that did happen to me, and it shifted my routine at the time. I started riding my bike, and my first bike ride was eight miles. I noticed after I started riding regularly, it became a portal for thoughts. Then I started stretching more and attending yoga classes. Interestingly, people don’t pay attention to the fine detail of what some of these things like yoga have to offer. It forces you to be uncomfortable and learn how to breathe in uncomfortable positions.
Similar to your day-to-day life, you don’t know what’s going to happen tomorrow, so you have to be flexible and comfortable with being uncomfortable. Once I began seeing how it affected me entirely, not just physically, I realized this should’ve been a practice in my daily regimen. I believe men and women must take a moment and become more flexible in their bodies and thought process.
Lastly, can you speak to the generational legacy that you want for your children, and so forth?
I want them to understand the importance of a business, a purpose, and integrity. I found that my mission is to remind people that even though the life journey is very turbulent, and there are ups and downs, we have to remember joy and happiness is a choice. For me and my music, it is about both discovering and rediscovering that all of the time. And asking yourself those specific questions about love and relationships. I feel my music will never get old, and I’ll always have something to speak about because there’s so many levels, dimensions, and perspectives of love.
Because I’m deeply rooted in purpose, I want my children to find what that is for them and have an active relationship with the “why” behind the things they set out to achieve. When you recognize your purpose, you can serve your soul. A part of serving your soul is serving others. As long as they do that, then they will continue to carry the legacy.
It’s like the old saying, “Treat people how you want to be treated.” And that’s why I give all of my love and focus to my music because I want that love back too.