We asked the blacklove.com community, “What’s the most surprising thing about being married?” Here’s what you had to say. In today’s society, so much attention is paid to marriage prep.  From the celebrations –– the engagement, the bridal shower, bachelor and bachelorette parties, and the ever-important wedding, to the work –– pre-marriage counseling, pre-engagement counseling, and endless advice sessions from friends and family, couples are doing their best to equip themselves for the everlasting “I Do.” But no matter how prepared one might be, there are always some surprises after “happily ever after.”