One of the best parts about being married is learning new things about yourself as a married person. You are wearing an extra hat now as the spouse of someone, which comes with a new way to behave and its own set of responsibilities and roles. If you add children to the mix, then you may as well add one hat for each child because they will all be very different. Somewhere along the way, you may realize that you haven’t spent time with yourself in years.
As many mothers know, those first few weeks and months of being a new mom are demanding of your time. Mostly because this little love bug wants their needs met so that they can go right back to sleep. As mothers, we get so conditioned to the life of only looking after our children and living on their clock that we forget about ourselves and our spouses. That is why I can relate to the Black Love Live episode, “Can You Balance Marriage, Career and Children”. The guests, Tommy and Codie Oliver and Devale and Khadeen Ellis, discussed finding balance and putting yourself at the top of your priority list.
This can mean different things for different people. As an influencer, Khadeen is aware of the pressure to “snap back” after the baby — meaning, a mother getting her body back to pre-baby shape. But, she decided to use the term in another way. Instead of the pressure to get her body back into shape, Khadeen took control of the expression and uses her “snap back” time as a snap-forward into being her best self. That includes ending procrastination, taking time for herself, and finding who she is so that she can be 100% for all the members of her family. For Khadeen, gym time is me time.