The Frays Black Love
Nine years in, we’ve found that no conversation is too small to discuss and no misunderstanding is too insignificant to talk through. The strength of our love is heavily based on us being on the same page, so we fight together to make sure we are always in step.
“Expectations set the standard and the trap early on in our marriage. Instead of communicating the things that made us feel loved and cherished, we just assumed that since we always did it so well while we were dating that we already knew. We figured that since we knew each other’s heart that we could essentially read each other’s minds. Holding each other to standards of love that we didn’t even know about was a disaster and it led to frustration, disappointment, and resentment. After much forgiveness and extensions of grace, we discovered that the joy-filled marriage that we both envisioned was realizable and we just needed to communicate to get there. Nine years in, we’ve found that no conversation is too small to discuss and no misunderstanding is too insignificant to talk through. The strength of our love is heavily based on us being on the same page, so we fight together to make sure we are always in step.”
Reflections by @fightingthefray
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