If you were to think about a perfect love story, what would it look like? Would it include a cute story of how the couple met? Maybe they dated for two to three years, had a few arguments but made up within minutes. After three years tops, he knew she was “the one” and didn’t make her wait to put a ring on it. This would be followed up by a beautiful ceremony – maybe in a church if you’re religious or in a castle fit for a princess if you’re obsessed with romantic movies. The wedding is the penultimate sign of a perfect love story, and then they go on to live happily ever after. Right?
According to this week’s episode of Black Love, the answer is a big, fat, hell no.
Sorry to break it to you, but no one’s love story is perfect. But we might forget that sometimes when looking in from the outside. Take one of the couples featured – Tamela and David Mann, who I still refer to as Cora and Mr. Brown, the characters they played in many of Tyler Perry’s plays and movies. They have been married for over 30 years and have garnered success as both actors and recording artists within the Christian spectrum of media. So I was very surprised and intrigued to know that their love story was not the straight line I assumed it would be but, in fact, contained lots of zig-zags, bumps, and dead ends before they got married. They started out as friends and quickly moved to being friends with benefits. We hear so often that our generation participates in “hook up culture,” but clearly – this ain’t start with us. Before they became The Manns, they were hooking up while also being involved with other people. In fact, Tamela was engaged to another man, and David had a child and a not-so-nice co-parenting relationship with the child’s mother.